Great relationships don't just happen. Both partners should work to make it happen. And "work" is the right term, since it's not always easy and smooth sailing. Even when you deeply love each other, there are times when you will be at loggerheads. This is normal. But you can strive to keep a clean slate, so that the disagreements don't pile up and cause deeper problems in your relationship.
The first step is to sit down and talk about common points of disagreements. The usual sources of quarrels would be money, house chores, sex and a lack of communication. When both of the partners have discussed these matters, it would be easy to refer back to what you both have agreed upon when things get heated up. It's really difficult to think in a logical manner when you are angry.
To deal with relationship problems at its very roots, here are a few simple steps:
Communication is key. Talk is definitely not cheap when it comes to strengthening relationships. When partners talk about their thoughts and share what they feel with their partner, it opens up avenues by which you can forge deeper ties. Sometimes, because of the everyday business of life, partners fail to communicate. Schedule appointments by which you can talk with each other. And when you are communicating, set some rules for you to follow. Don't generalize - avoid using the words "you always" or "you never".
Make time for some lovin'. The sexual aspect of your relationship should never be taken for granted, no matter how busy you are. Again, set a date for this - you will find your excitement and anticipation building up as your "date" draws near. Of course, you should also be open to spur-of-the-moment things. The main thing is that you enjoy each other.
Establish money matters. How you spend your money as a couple is an important thing for you to establish in your relationship. This includes how bills are paid, what portion of the money is allocated to savings, what goals you have (big and small purchases).
Organize chore responsibilities. Discuss the different jobs around the house and who is responsible for it. This is to avoid resentment felt by a spouse because he or she feels that he or she is doing more of the housework. Try to be fair about the work distributions. - 31363
The first step is to sit down and talk about common points of disagreements. The usual sources of quarrels would be money, house chores, sex and a lack of communication. When both of the partners have discussed these matters, it would be easy to refer back to what you both have agreed upon when things get heated up. It's really difficult to think in a logical manner when you are angry.
To deal with relationship problems at its very roots, here are a few simple steps:
Communication is key. Talk is definitely not cheap when it comes to strengthening relationships. When partners talk about their thoughts and share what they feel with their partner, it opens up avenues by which you can forge deeper ties. Sometimes, because of the everyday business of life, partners fail to communicate. Schedule appointments by which you can talk with each other. And when you are communicating, set some rules for you to follow. Don't generalize - avoid using the words "you always" or "you never".
Make time for some lovin'. The sexual aspect of your relationship should never be taken for granted, no matter how busy you are. Again, set a date for this - you will find your excitement and anticipation building up as your "date" draws near. Of course, you should also be open to spur-of-the-moment things. The main thing is that you enjoy each other.
Establish money matters. How you spend your money as a couple is an important thing for you to establish in your relationship. This includes how bills are paid, what portion of the money is allocated to savings, what goals you have (big and small purchases).
Organize chore responsibilities. Discuss the different jobs around the house and who is responsible for it. This is to avoid resentment felt by a spouse because he or she feels that he or she is doing more of the housework. Try to be fair about the work distributions. - 31363
